I don’t know if you remember, but I’ll remind you again anyways: Gender if fluid.
How you may ask. Well . . . if I have to spell it out for you then I shall with one world.
Now, to be honest, drag is probably the most in your face example of gender as a performance. And if you’ve ever seen a drag show, you can tell how much effort is put into turning one gender into another. But drag is also a kind of gender identity and it’s also a great example of gender fluidity.
Writer/Filmmaker Gabrielle Burton let a TED conference at Columbus on gender fluidity. I was watching this TED talk – because that just seemed to be all I do these days, and Burton said something that kind of hit me.
She said that we are essentially segregating children into these gender binaries. And no one seemed to mind this kind of segregation. It was startling because, we’re always talking about race when we reference segregation, but we’re doing the same thing with sexuality.
We as people are failing to realize just how important it is for us to be gender fluid. We’re so quick to put down labels and keep things in nice little boxes, but in doing so we are limiting our views and our potentials. And we’re pushing this on to each generation.
Remember when you were little and you’re parents told you you can be anything you wanted to be?
Well they failed to tell you that what they really meant was, you can only be anything you want within the parameters that society assigns.
I’d like to take this moment to turn our attention to porn. And I don’t mean to say that I’m changing the subject or anything. I’d just like to reference a pornstar that really challenged the norms and got in everyone’s face about gender fluidity.
If you don’t know him go look him up. If you won’t I’ll tell you about him.
Buck Angel is the man with the pussy. And that’s his legit title, I kid you not. Buck Angel is what some would call a legend. He’s probably the first trans person to put his foot down and say, ‘yes, I identify as male, but that doesn’t mean I want to get rid of my vagina.’
And how can you not respect a person like that?
But on the real, real. Buck Angel brought up a lot of questions about what is gender to a lot of people. He was one of many catalyst that made people really start thinking about gender fluidity and that’s just freaking awesome.
Because we need to question and act out and break down the norms. Walls were built to be broken down! And that’s all I have to say on that matter.